Sunday, December 28, 2014

Come to Domestic Discipline Chat on Sunday, 28th December, 2014


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 28th December, 2014.

There are TWO STAGES to this week's chat, beginning with an early stage at 8.00PM BRITISH TIME, to accomodate our European members, althought anyone is very welcome.
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There is so far no 'official' topic for tonight's chat, but I thought it might be interesting to dicuss whether DD and D/s make occasions like Christmas more, or less, stressful and how this works for you. Also whether you have plans to change or develop your DD or D/s relationship in the new year.

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

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choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, December 14, 2014

Come to Sunday Domestic Discipline Chat on 14th December


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 14th December, 2014.

There are TWO STAGES to this week's chat, beginning with an early stage at 8.00PM BRITISH TIME, to accomodate our European members.
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There is no specific planned topic tonight, so bring your own questions and ideas

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

Domestic Discipline Chat

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, December 7, 2014

You are invited to Sunday Domestic Discipline Chat


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 7th December, 2014.

There are TWO STAGES to this week's chat, beginning with an early stage at 8.00PM BRITISH TIME, to accomodate our European members.
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I thoudgt that tonight it might be fun to expand on the discussion in the forum's SCHEDULES discussion tonight. We could explore the questions from both the point of view of the sub/TIH and the HoH/Dom as to why people do, or do not, have, a schedule, how it works, what the benefits and downsides are and what, if you do not have one,you envisage the problems or advantages of having one to be.

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choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, November 30, 2014

Please note the changes to this Sunday's Chat!


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 29th November, 2014.

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Tonight's questions are fairly radom and you can preview them here:

CHAT QUESTIONS FOR 30TH NOVEMBER

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Domestic Discipline Chat

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, November 23, 2014

Sunday Domestic Discipline Chat 23rd November 2014


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 23rd November, 2014. This week's discussion will begin at 7.30pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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What are the most postive changes that DD and D/s have brought to your life? Tell us about them in Thanksgiving week's Sunday chat.br>
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Domestic Discipline Chat

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, November 9, 2014

Come to Sunday Domestic Discipline Chat on 9th November 2014


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 9th November, 2014. This week's discussion will begin at 7.30pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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This week we have some questions for general discussion and members are welcome to add to these with questions on any topic they would personally like to discuss.

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

Domestic Discipline Chat

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, November 2, 2014

Come to Sunday Domestic Discipline Chat on 2nd November


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 2nd November, 2014. This week's discussion will begin at 7.30pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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This week we are going to have a fun night with some 'just for the hell of it' questions

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

Domestic Discipline Chat

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Come to Sunday Domestic Discipline Chat on 19th October 2014


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 19th October, 2014. This week's discussion will begin at 7.30pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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There is no set topic this week

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

Domestic Discipline Chat

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Come to Sunday Domestic Discipline Chat on 12th October


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 12th October, 2014. This week's discussion will begin at 7.30pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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There is no set topic this week

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

Domestic Discipline Chat

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, October 5, 2014

Join us for Sunday Domestic Discipline Chat.


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 5th October, 2014. This week's discussion will begin at 7.30pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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THis week, I have put together a few questions on the role and influence of DD in changing behaviour, including in the case of ingrained habits, addications etc, and what exactly motivates these changes.

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choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, September 28, 2014

Come to Domestic Discipline Chat on Sunday 28th September


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 28th September, 2014. This week's discussion will begin at 7.30pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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Since no-one has volunteered any topic questions and I have had no time to look into this, we don't have an 'official' discussion topic as such. Please feel free to go into chat and raise any DD or D/s related topic about which you would like to chat.

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

Domestic Discipline Chat

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Come to Sunday Domestic Discipline Chat on 21st September


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 21st September, 2014. This week's discussion will begin at 7.30pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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My apologies, but,because I am working night shift tonight, I am unable to attend. Since no-one has volunteered any topic questions and I have no time to look into this, we don't have an 'official' discussion topic as such. Please feel free to go into chat and raise any DD or D/s related topic about which you would like to chat.

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

Domestic Discipline Chat

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, September 14, 2014

Topic led Sunday domestic discipline chat on 14th September


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 14th September, 2014. The topic of the week will begin at 7.30pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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This week the chat will be led by riverruner, who will ask some questions on dominance and submission as suggested by cj.

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choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, September 7, 2014

Come to Sunday Domestic Discipline Chat on 7th September


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 7th September, 2014. The topic of the week will begin at 7.00pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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Among other general things, Willie from the forums has kindly suggested that we have a some general questions, like, " What does a 'natural' submissive look like to you?", "Do you believe that submission is a gift and what is your reason for your answer?" "Do you have a need to conqueur or be conquered in the D/s sense?"

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

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choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, August 31, 2014

Join us for Sunday Domestic Discipline chat on 31st August, 2014


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 31st August, 2014. The topic of the week will begin at 7.00pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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THis week I thought we could begin by taking our cue from Cassy's 'D & L' thread, "Labels. What do they mean to you?" and pose the same questions in our chat. Then we could move onto other other controversial terms and get people's thoughts on those - "Topping from the bottom" is one that comes to mind, but I'm sure there are many others. Feel free to bring your own favourite or least favourite piece of "jargon" for discussion.br>
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choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, August 24, 2014

Sunday Domestic Discipline Chat on 24th August


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 24th August, 2014. The topic of the week will begin at 7.00pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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Owing to a lack of volunteers and the fact that I am unable to attend, tonight's chat will be an open discussion and participants are invited to talk about anything on their minds. I do request that D/d and D/s discussion take priority over other topics.

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

Domestic Discipline Chat

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Sunday, August 17, 2014

Sunday Domestic Discipline Chat on 17th August


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 17th August, 2014. The topic of the week will begin at 7.00pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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Owing to a lack of volunteers and the fact that I am unable to attend, tonight's chat will be an open discussion and participants are invited to talk about anything on their minds. I do request that D/d and D/s discussion take priority over other topics.

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

http://us10.chatzy.com/Domestic-Discipline-Chat"

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.
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Sunday, August 10, 2014

Sunday Chat in the Domestic Discipline Chat Room

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COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 10th August, 2014. The topic of the week will begin at 7.00pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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This week AngelaH will be inviting us to explore and share the different ways in which DD can affect our everyday relationships

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

http://us10.chatzy.com/Domestic-Discipline-Chat"

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.
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Saturday, August 2, 2014

Come to Domestic Discipline Chat on Sunday 3rd August


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 3rd August, 2014. The topic of the week will begin at 7.00pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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This week's topic to be advised

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

http://us10.chatzy.com/Domestic-Discipline-Chat"

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.
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Sunday, July 27, 2014

Come to Sunday Chat on 27th July in the "DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE CHAT ROOM"


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 27th July, 2014. The topic of the week will begin at 7.00pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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This week snoozz will be bringing a fresh angle to the topic of

'RULES'

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

http://us10.chatzy.com/Domestic-Discipline-Chat"

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.
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Sunday, July 20, 2014

Come to Sunday Chat in the 'DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE CHAT ROOM' on 20th July.


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 20th July, 2014. The topic of the week will begin at 7.00pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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This week I'll be asking a few questions, suggested by cjindy about

'SUBMISSION IN DD AND D/S RELATIONSHIPS'

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

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choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.
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Sunday, July 13, 2014

Come to Sunday Chat in the DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE CHAT ROOM on 13th July


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 13th July, 2014. The topic of the week will begin at 7.00pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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This week I'll be asking a few questions about 'COMMUNICATION IN DD AND D/S RELATIONSHIPS'

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

http://us10.chatzy.com/Domestic-Discipline-Chat"

choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.
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Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Trending Topics of the week on the 'D & L' forums

DD, D/s, M/s, Sex, and admitting you enjoy a combination.


Posted by Gorilla
 

 I thought I might throw this up for discussion and see where it takes us all.

I want to talk about DD, D/s, M/s, Sex, Hidden desires and why people struggle to come to terms with their needs and the ability to openly admit that they in fact have a need.

I find it quite intriguing and to a point amusing that a group of people can get together on a forum such as this and discuss spanking for discipline, the use of implements and some aspects of submission and dominance, most freely admitting that it is part and parcel of their sexuality. However the minute you mention that their need may go beyond just discipline the vast majority suddenly go quiet or shudder and respond with "ohh not me!".

Is the changing need that can develop from spanking for discipline, to purely and simply sexually motivated Dominance and submission including the pain associated to spanking etc any different to discovering the many other facets of sexual gratification.....................................(more on the 'D & L' forums, here...)



 Subconscious Submission. (Sunday 29th June Chat)
 Posted by Gorilla


First of all I would like to thank Leah for hosting chat. It was a very interesting chat and most people seemed to be able to contribute.

Once again I was asked what exactly it is I mean by "subconscious submission"
It's hard to explain clearly in a chat room environment so I thought I would make the effort here.

To me it has nothing whatsoever to do with your choice of dynamic or specifics of your dynamic.

It's a basic development of growth within a relationship involving submission and dominance.

A lot of people start out with rules and desires expressed by both parties within the relationship and that's fine, but eventually there should be growth and the ability to move beyond a list of rules. IMO.....................................(more on the 'D & L' forums, here...)



 JULY 6 CHAT QUESTION #1 
 Posted by AngelaH

What attracted you to the concept of DD in the first place?

Is it something you've always fantasized about, or was there something in your life or relationship that you felt could be helped or.....................(more on the 'D & L' forums, here...)



 JULY 6 CHAT QUESTION #2
 Posted by AngelaH 

Do you envision your DD as more "rules based" and about taking care of conflict and problems in the relationship, or do you have a different "ideal" in mind when you think of DD?.....................(more on the 'D & L' forums, here...)

 

JULY 6 CHAT QUESTION #3
 Posted by AngelaH 

Do you feel that Dominant/submissive interaction plays a part in DD, or is it entirely separate?

If you do feel it plays a part, how does that balance out for you, and how would you define the D/s element?.....................(more on the 'D & L' forums, here...)


 
JULY 6 CHAT QUESTION #4
 Posted by AngelaH 

As you have progressed in your DD relationship, have you found that the D/s element has become more natural and pronounced? If so, in what ways has that manifested itself?...................(more on the 'D & L' forums, here...)



 

JULY 6 CHAT QUESTION #5
 Posted by AngelaH 

If your DD has stayed mostly "rules based", do you find that it has improved your communication and brought you closer as a couple, in addition to simply resolving conflicts and keeping order?...................................(more on the 'D & L' forums, here...)

Sunday, July 6, 2014

Sunday DD chat on 6th July


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 6th July, 2014. The topic of the week will begin at 7.00pm USA Eastern Standard Time.
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This week I'll be asking a few questions about what attracted you to DD in the first place and what part if any, "rules based" DD plays in your relationship

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

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choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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Saturday, June 28, 2014

Sunday Chat on 29th June, 2014


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: on Sunday 29th June, 2014. The topic of the week will begin at 7.00pm USA EST.
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                                     Our guest topic leader this week will be leah, who will be asking questions of a general nature.

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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

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choose your name and colour, fill in password: "4ddchat" (EVERYONE USES THE SAME PASSWORD TO GET INTO CHAT) and click on "Enter Room". When the new Chat Room screen appears, click on "Join Chat" and you should be all ready to go!

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THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT OR EXPECTATION THAT WE WILL ALL AGREE ON EVERYTHING AND IT IS THE VARIETY OF EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT MAKES OUR DISCUSSIONS INTERESTING AND PROFITABLE. HOWEVER WE DO ASK THAT PARTICIPANTS MAINTAIN CIVILITY AND CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS WHEN CONDUCTING DISCUSSIONS IN THE CHAT ROOM.

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Trending Topics on the 'D & L' forums



 This week's trending topics on the 'Discipline & Love' DD forums.  Click on the topic titles to go to the thread as it is on the forums

How do you define romance?

Just curious what everyone thinks?



When what he wants is not what you want

Help me out, people. I was just reading what Caspar64 was saying in "To submit" thread on the Story Board about the hard part of obedience for her -- it was when you don't want to do what he wants. And you do it, because that's what you chose. Let me tell you, you have to dig deep for that...................... 



DD, D/s, Punishment and Eroticism-How do they fit together?

Based on my own experience and my interaction with others over the past eleven years, I think I can safely say that most couples initially have very genuine practical reasons for introducing DD to their relationships. These are mainly to do with the desire to have an effective tool to help them reduce and deal with areas of conflict and disrespect, provide structure and security and encourage a healthier and safer existence.

However, when you look at things a bit more carefully, I think, for many people, there is a great deal more to it............



 Where are the wallflowers?

I friend and I were having a conversation earlier about the strong women we've encountered in this lifestyle. I've also heard it said that a strong Dom wants a strong sub.

Thoughts?


Sunday, June 22, 2014

You are inivited to Sunday Night Chat on 22nd June


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This week, our first guest topic leader, Stevhoh, also known as 'cassysgorilla', will be hosting the chat. His questions are of a general nature and may be previewed at the top of the ' D & L' site's Index Page, here:
http://www.disciplineandlove.com/index.php
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Saturday, June 21, 2014

Sunday 22nd June, 2014. Chat Preview


Grateful thanks to EsMay of the "Submitting to be Led" Blog, who was instrumental in pulling 'Discipline & Love's' weekly Sunday topic led chat out of the doldrums and giving it structure and interest, but who is no longer able to continue as topic leader. Beginning this week, we are introducing guest topic leaders. If you wish to lead a chat in our off site DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE CHAT ROOM in the future, please contact the site administration on disciplineandlove@hotmail.co.uk
 
 

Our first week's guest topic leader is StevHoH, also known as 'CassysGorilla', who will pose the following questions:
 

(1)  As a submissive what's the one habit your Dominant partner has not been able to successfully change at this point? 
As the Dominant partner what habit have you had the most trouble changing?
 

(2)  As a submissive, do you think that this dynamic in terms of conflict resolution, has given you tools to approach conflict outside of your relationship in a better way?

(3)  As a Dominant, has this dynamic improved your ability to handle conflict outside of your home and relationship.
 

(4)  As a submissive, if for some reason physical punishments were no longer a possibility, do you think you would be able to maintain the same level of submission that you have attained without the threat of being spanked?
Same question posed to the Dominant
 

(5)  When you look to the future in terms of your current dynamic and it's development is there anything you fear? For example, will it end, will it develop, is it sustainable?
 

(6)  What's the one thing you would change within the development of your DD D/s relationship if you could? 



On Monday, when the chat is over, the questions will be thrown open for general discussion in the form of a thread on the 'Discipline & Love' forums.

Monday, June 16, 2014

DD, D/s, Punishment and Eroticism - How do they fit together?

Based on my own experience and my interaction with others over the past eleven years, I think I can safely say that most couples initially have very genuine practical reasons for introducing DD to their relationships. These are mainly to do with the desire to have an effective tool to help them reduce and deal with areas of conflict and disrespect, provide structure and security and encourage a healthier and safer existence.

However, when you look at things a bit more carefully, I think, for many people, there is a great deal more to it. To begin with, religious reasons apart, why would two legally and socially equal competent adults in a life relationship choose a dynamic that effectively gives one power over the other and why would a woman (or person with submissive tendencies), when considering the qualities they would like in a partner, be more attracted to a person with an air of caring authority and decisiveness, than one who is pleasant and easy going, but doesn't have those qualities?

To take that a step further, assuming that many start off with little or no experience of the effectiveness of spanking as a correctional tool and that others only have negative childhood memories of how it was used, why is it that many of our very different (from childhood) adult selves are attracted to the specific concept of spanking as a tool of correction?

There are of course exceptions, but personally, I believe that it is to do with the fact that each of us is 'wired' in such a way that we find a more dominant or submissive (respectively) personality attractive in a partner. (And what more tangible demonstration/experience of dominance/submission than the act of one person being put in a position where they can consensually physically discipline another who voluntarily submits to this?).  Since we are adults, with adult attributes and feelings, this extends into all areas of our relationships, including sexuality.  I'm not saying that this is the whole deal with the relationship, but only that it is probably an important contributor to the choices we make, even if we are not conscious of it, or choose not to acknowledge it as such.

If that seems like a step too far, how about talking it down to a more grass roots DD level?

Since it is a relevant factor here, I will start by saying, that when I refer to "erotic" or "sexual" in the context of 'real' punishment, I am speaking only of the natural feelings that can occur as a result of the (disciplinary) D/s interaction between two adults in an intimate relationship and not of any purposeful attempt to 'mix' sexual spanking with discipline in the same session.  I say this because, in the eleven years during which I have interacted with other 'serious' DD couples on the internet and in real life, I have only twice, both times very recently, heard people voice the opinion that this actually occurs in genuine DD relationships.  In one instance it was suggested that some people 'eroticise' punishment by incorporating sexual touching, rubbing and verbal sexual suggestion.  In the other, it was said that some couples, on identifying an infraction, decide to 'deal with it' by sharing a sexual spanking and calling that "punishment".  I can only say, that in all the years I have moved in DD circles, I have never once known anyone to describe "punishment" or its erotic element in either of those terms.

In my experience, what they consistently mean when they speak of the 'erotic' element in punishment is what I have described below.    

Ask almost any individual who considers themselves to be "strictly DD" and not 'into' what they think of as the more 'kinky' and 'artificial' world of D/s (or, if they happen to indulge, consider that aspect of their relationships to be entirely an separate animal) and you can be pretty well certain that they will tell you that the 'evidence' of this in mainly in the fact that their disciplinary spankings are "real" because they are "aren't sexual in any way" and the experience is an unpleasant one.  Then ask them how they feel after the discipline is over and the great majority will reply that they feel much closer to their partners in every way, including that they find them more sexually attractive.  Some will also sometimes feel quite comfortable about sealing closure on the infraction and punishment by reconnecting sexually as a first step to moving on once the discipline is over and done with.  Most will say (although they might use different terms to describe it) that part of this reaction comes from appreciation of how "right" the dominant/submissive interaction feels.

Ask any person who embraces the D/s aspect of their relationship and might enjoy erotic spanking as a bedroom activity how discipline works for them and they will say, (guess what?) that they very much dislike the experience of being spanked for discipline because it's a serious and 'real' business with a completely different atmosphere, significance and feel from a 'play' type spanking.  Then ask them how they feel after the discipline is over and the great majority will reply that they feel much closer to their partners in every way, including that they find them more sexually attractive.  Some will also sometimes feel quite comfortable about sometimes sealing closure on the 'over and done with' infraction and punishment by reconnecting sexually as a first step to moving on once the discipline is over and done with.  Most will say that part of this reaction comes from appreciation of how "right" the dominant/submissive interaction feels.

If you are thinking that I've repeated more or less the same thing for both categories of people, then you aren't wrong, because I have found over the years that what the two sets of people say about their supposed "differences" only goes to show that in the great majority of cases, there doesn't really seem to be much of a difference at all.  Of course, as in anything else,  there are exceptions to this "rule", but they honestly don't seem to be very common.

So what I think it's worth asking yourself if you feel that your disciplinary spankings aren't 'working' is whether your problem is really related to what you do after the punishment part is over and done with and you are supposed to have used your "final closure" tool of a disciplinary spanking to deal with and get past any division that the infraction caused, or does it have to do with the fact that you perhaps aren't setting the tone and atmosphere of the actual discipline to be different from that of a sexual spanking?  That is not to say by ritualising and creating a stylised setting which is quite likely to end up escalating the feeling of artificiality by giving it feel of a 'role play', but following where the natural and unforced  presence of an entirely different emotional and psychological  atmosphere leads you.  As adults, I would suggest that few of us are unable to recognise genuine displeasure in a person with whom we are in an intimate relationship and that it's more than unlikely that we will confuse this with pleasure and won't be aware that we are being punished.

Assuming that it has to do with the second factor, can what you do *after* the punishment is supposedly finished make any difference to what happens *during* it?  Is it going to make the spanking that you've just experienced less physically painful and emotionally memorable, or alleviate any of the lingering after affects? 

Also, is there anything constructive or useful to be gained by denying yourself whatever kind of reconnection, be it sex, or whatever, seems natural and desirable to you as a couple, once the punishment has been concluded.   Similarly, are you 100% certain that by making a special point of controlling whatever you do afterwards by directly linking the 'reconnection' to the discipline, you won't be carrying on the punishment indefinitely thereby losing the effectiveness of DD as a tool to deal with and conclude an issue once and for all?

I know that there are people who believe that, if you sometimes (and I stress the  "sometimes", because there are no "rules" about this and it's usually just a case of whatever transpires naturally between the couple at any one time) happen to progress into making love after a disciplinary spanking, it can create some kind of undesirable connection between punishment and pleasure, but realistically, since, whatever their 'official' feelings on this and whatever they actually do after punishment, most people seem to experience much the same emotions and effects both during and after the spanking, is this statistically likely?  The only difference seems to be that some people act on whatever seems right in the moment , which doesn't have to be sex and can be a case of just carrying on with your lives, and some people feel bound by some kind of protocol they for some reason think they "have to" follow in order to make it seem 'correct'.

I also fully understand that there appear to be instances in which punishment isn't effective because the same offences continue to be repeated and that some people have the believe that this is because of a punishment/pleasure association which encourages those repeats.   I would suggest that, while this is possibly true os some couples, it is just as likely to be because old habits take a while to break, things get forgotten, or just because there is often a lack of consistent and/or effective disciplinary response when a couple is new to DD and are finding their way.

So what I am saying, is why not forget the labels, the "must dos" and the fact that someone else might see your genuine discipline as kink or eroticism and just go with whatever works best for you as a couple and maintains the happiest level of relationship?
 

Sunday, June 15, 2014

You are invited to Sunday Chat. Details here.


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: from 3.00PM Central Time onwards on Sunday 15th June, 2014. The topic of the week will begin at 6:30pm Central Time.
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This week EsMay of
http://www.submittingtobeled.blogspot.com"
is kindly leading a discussion on the subject of
"OBEDIENCE AND WHY IT IS IMPORTANT"
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Sunday, June 8, 2014

You are invited to Sunday Chat


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This week EsMay of
http://www.submittingtobeled.blogspot.com"
is kindly leading a discussion on the subject of
"Fostering Dominance and Submission Together"
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Sunday, June 1, 2014

You are invited to Sunday chat on 1st June, 2014


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This week EsMay of
http://www.submittingtobeled.blogspot.com"
is kindly leading a discussion on the subject of
"AFTER CARE"
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Sunday, May 25, 2014

You are invited to Sunday Chat on 25th May, 2014.


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This week EsMay of
http://www.submittingtobeled.blogspot.com"
is kindly leading a discussion on the subject of
"DD FANTASY VERSUS DD REALITY"

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Sunday, May 18, 2014


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: from 9.00PM British Time onwards on Sunday 18th May, 2014.
This week EsMay of
http://www.submittingtobeled.blogspot.com"
is kindly leading a discussion on the subject of
"IMPLEMENTS"

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Sunday, May 11, 2014


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: from 9.00PM British Time onwards on Sunday 11th May, 2014.
This week EsMay of
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is kindly leading a discussion on the subject of
"SUBMISSION EXERCISES"
For an outline of the topic, read this post
http://www.disciplineandlove.com/viewtopic.php?f=10&t=6749"

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Sunday, May 4, 2014

Join us for a live discussion on "submission in DD relationships" on 4th May, 2014


COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: from 9.00PM British Time onwards on Sunday 4thMay, 2014.
This week EsMay of
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is kindly leading a discussion on the subject of submission
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Sunday, April 27, 2014

Come to topic led DD Chat on Sunday 27th April, 2014

COME TO SCHEDULED SUNDAY CHAT IN OUR 24/7/365 OFF-SITE 'CHATZY' ROOM: from 9.00PM British Time onwards on Sunday 27th April, 2014.
This week EsMay of
http://www.submittingtobeled.blogspot.com"
is kindly leading a discussion on the subject of "Consistency"
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To access the offsite 1DD Chat Room, simply click on the link below (or copy and paste it into your browser's address bar),

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